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How to be a Rules Girl

 **1. Introduction**

   - **Purpose**: Guide clients in dating through "The Rules."

   - **Focus**: Building confidence, self-worth, and establishing healthy boundaries.

   - **Outcome**: Empowerment and mastery in relationships.

 

 **2. Week-by-Week Structure**

   - **Week 1: Foundations of Self-Worth**

     - Rule #1: Be a "Creature Unlike Any Other."

     - Activities:

       - Confidence-building exercises.

       - Positive mindset journaling focused on strengths.

 

   - **Week 2: Communication and Interaction**

     - Rules #2-6:

       - Avoid initiating contact with men.

       - End calls/dates first to maintain intrigue.

     - Activities:

       - Role-playing scenarios for communication restraint.

       - Strategies to cultivate mystery (Rule #20).

 

   - **Week 3: Dating Etiquette**

     - Rules #7-12:

       - Accept only timely invitations.

       - Practice restraint on physical intimacy early on.

     - Activities:

       - Mock dates to refine behaviors and etiquette.

       - Recognizing romantic gestures.

 

   - **Week 4: Building Healthy Boundaries**

     - Rules #13-16:

       - Limit date frequency to maintain independence.

       - Avoid rushing into intimacy or cohabitation.

     - Activities:

       - Boundary-setting exercises.

       - Techniques for assertive yet non-confrontational communication.

 

   - **Week 5: Navigating Relationships**

     - Rules #17-21:

       - Let him lead the relationship.

       - Accept people as they are; avoid trying to change them.

     - Activities:

       - Group discussions on realistic relationship expectations.

       - Online profile optimization for positivity (Rule #21).

 

   - **Week 6: Handling Challenges**

     - Rules #22-28:

       - Avoid dating married men or premature cohabitation.

       - Strategies for resilience in rejection ("Next!").

     - Activities:

       - Exercises to overcome criticism of "The Rules."

 

 

 

 

 

Dating Coach Program: Empowering Women with Timeless Relationship Strategies

 

Module 1: Rule 1 - Be a "Creature Unlike Any Other"

Objective: Build self-confidence and radiance to embody uniqueness. ​ Tasks:

1. Self-Reflection Exercise: Write down 5 qualities that make you unique and special.

2. Posture Practice: Practice walking with shoulders back and head high for 10 minutes daily. ​

3. Mirror Affirmations: Stand in front of a mirror and repeat, "I am a creature unlike any other" 10 times every morning.

4. Social Observation: Attend a social event and observe how confident people carry themselves. ​ Take notes.

 

 

Module 2: Rule 2 - Don't Talk to a Man First (and Don't Ask Him to Dance) ​

Objective: Learn to let men take the lead. ​ Tasks:

1. Role-Playing: Practice scenarios where you avoid initiating conversations with men. ​

2. Social Event Challenge: Attend a party and focus on being approachable but not initiating contact. ​

3. Journal Reflection: Write about how it feels to let others approach you first.

 

 

Module 3: Rule 3 - Don't Stare at Men or Talk Too Much ​

Objective: Develop mystery and restraint in interactions. ​ Tasks:

1. Eye Contact Practice: Practice making brief, friendly eye contact without staring. ​

2. Conversation Timer: Use a timer to limit your speaking time during conversations. ​ Aim to listen more.

3. Observation Exercise: Watch how others interact in social settings and note who dominates conversations. ​

 

 

Module 4: Rule 4 - Don't Meet Him Halfway or Go Dutch on a Date ​

Objective: Encourage chivalry and let men take the initiative. Tasks:

1. Scenario Planning: Role-play how to respond when a man suggests meeting halfway or splitting the bill.

2. Gratitude Practice: Practice saying "thank you" graciously when someone does something for you. ​

3. Journal Reflection: Write about how it feels to let someone take the lead. ​

 

 

Module 5: Rule 5 - Don't Call Him and Rarely Return His Calls ​

Objective: Avoid chasing and let men pursue you. ​ Tasks:

1. Phone Discipline: Commit to not calling or texting a man for one week.

2. Accountability Partner: Share your progress with a friend who can hold you accountable. ​

3. Journal Exercise: Reflect on how it feels to wait for him to call. ​

 

 

Module 6: Rule 6 - Always End Phone Calls First ​

Objective: Leave him wanting more. ​ Tasks:

1. Set a Timer: Limit phone calls to 10 minutes. ​ Practice ending the call politely. ​

2. Script Practice: Write and rehearse phrases to end a call, such as "I have to run, but it was great talking to you." ​

3. Reflection: Note how the other person reacts when you end the call first.

 

 

Module 7: Rule 7 - Don't Accept a Saturday Night Date After Wednesday ​

Objective: Teach the importance of planning and respect. Tasks:

1. Boundary Setting: Practice politely declining last-minute invitations. ​

2. Role-Playing: Rehearse responses to late-week date requests.

3. Plan Ahead: Fill your weekend schedule by Wednesday to avoid temptation. ​

 

 

Module 8: Rule 8 - Fill Up Your Time Before the Date ​

Objective: Stay busy and avoid overthinking. ​ Tasks:

1. Pre-Date Schedule: Plan activities (gym, errands, hobbies) leading up to the date. ​

2. Relaxation Exercise: Take a bubble bath or meditate before the date.

3. Journal Exercise: Reflect on how staying busy affects your mindset.

 

 

Module 9: Rule 9 - How to Act on Dates 1, 2, and 3 ​

Objective: Be light, charming, and mysterious. ​ Tasks:

1. Role-Playing: Practice light and fun conversation topics. ​

2. Body Language Practice: Work on smiling and maintaining open, relaxed posture. ​

3. Journal Reflection: Write about how you felt during the date and what you learned.

 

Module 10: Rule 10 - How to Act on Dates 4 Through Commitment Time ​

Objective: Gradually open up while maintaining mystery. ​ Tasks:

1. Conversation Balance: Share one personal detail for every two he shares.

2. Observation Exercise: Note how he responds to your warmth and attentiveness. ​

3. Journal Reflection: Reflect on how the relationship is progressing.

 

Module 11: Rule 11 - Always End the Date First ​

Objective: Leave him wanting more. ​ Tasks:

1. Time Management: Set a time limit for the date and stick to it. ​

2. Exit Practice: Rehearse polite ways to end the date, such as "I have an early morning tomorrow." ​

3. Reflection: Note his reaction when you end the date first. ​

 

Module 12: Rule 12 - Stop Dating Him if He Doesn't Buy You a Romantic Gift ​

Objective: Recognize signs of genuine interest. ​ Tasks:

1. Gift Reflection: Write down what romantic gestures mean to you.

2. Boundary Setting: Practice saying no to relationships that lack effort. ​

3. Discussion: Share examples of romantic gestures with the group.

 

Module 13: Rule 13 - Don't See Him More Than Once or Twice a Week ​

Objective: Pace the relationship. Tasks:

1. Schedule Control: Plan your week to limit dates to 1-2 times.

2. Hobby Exploration: Find new activities to fill your time. ​

3. Journal Reflection: Reflect on how pacing affects the relationship. ​

 

Module 14: Rule 14 - No More Than Casual Kissing on the First Date ​

Objective: Set physical boundaries. Tasks:

1. Boundary Practice: Role-play how to handle situations where he pushes for more.

2. Self-Reflection: Write about your comfort level with physical intimacy.

3. Accountability Partner: Share your boundaries with a friend for support. ​

 

Module 15: Rule 15 - Don't Rush Into Sex ​

Objective: Build emotional intimacy first. ​ Tasks:

1. Self-Reflection: Write about why waiting is important to you.

2. Role-Playing: Practice responses to pressure for intimacy.

3. Journal Reflection: Reflect on how waiting affects the relationship. ​

 

Module 16: Rule 16 - Don't Tell Him What to Do ​

Objective: Avoid controlling behavior and let him make his own decisions. ​ Tasks:

1. Scenario Practice: Role-play situations where you might feel tempted to give advice or instructions, and practice holding back.

2. Self-Reflection: Write about why letting him take the lead is important for a healthy relationship. ​

3. Observation Exercise: Note how he responds when you let him make decisions without interference.

 

Module 17: Rule 17 - Let Him Take the Lead ​

Objective: Encourage him to take initiative in the relationship. ​ Tasks:

1. Observation Exercise: Pay attention to how he takes the lead in planning dates or expressing feelings.

2. Role-Playing: Practice responding positively when he takes initiative, such as planning a date or expressing affection.

3. Journal Reflection: Write about how letting him take the lead affects the dynamic of the relationship. ​

 

Module 18: Rule 18 - Don't Expect a Man to Change or Try to Change Him ​

Objective: Accept him as he is or move on. ​ Tasks:

1. Acceptance Exercise: Write down the qualities you appreciate about him and the ones you find challenging.

2. Boundary Setting: Role-play how to address deal-breakers politely and firmly.

3. Reflection: Reflect on whether you can accept him as he is or if it’s time to move on. ​

 

Module 19: Rule 19 - Don't Open Up Too Fast ​

Objective: Build emotional intimacy gradually. ​ Tasks:

1. Conversation Practice: Limit personal sharing to light topics for the first few dates. ​

2. Self-Reflection: Write about why pacing emotional intimacy is important for building trust. ​

3. Observation Exercise: Note how he responds to your gradual sharing and whether he opens up more.

 

Module 20: Rule 20 - Be Honest but Mysterious ​

Objective: Balance honesty with intrigue. ​ Tasks:

1. Scenario Practice: Role-play how to answer questions honestly while maintaining mystery. ​

2. Self-Reflection: Write about what aspects of your life you want to keep private initially. ​

3. Observation Exercise: Note how he reacts to your mysteriousness and whether it increases his interest. ​

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Module 21: Rule 21 - Accentuate the Positive and Other Rules for Personal Ads ​

Objective: Learn how to present yourself positively in personal ads or dating profiles. ​ Tasks:

1. Ad Writing Exercise: Write a short, upbeat personal ad or dating profile that highlights your best qualities without sounding desperate. ​

2. Feedback Session: Share your ad with the group and get constructive feedback.

3. Photo Selection: Choose a flattering photo to accompany your ad, ensuring it reflects your personality. ​

 

Module 22: Rule 22 - Don't Live with a Man (or Leave Your Things in His Apartment) ​

Objective: Avoid cohabitation unless there’s a wedding date set. ​ Tasks:

1. Boundary Setting: Write down your reasons for not living with a man before marriage. ​

2. Scenario Practice: Role-play how to respond if he suggests moving in together without commitment. ​

3. Reflection Exercise: Journal about how maintaining independence strengthens your relationship.

 

Module 23: Rule 23 - Don't Date a Married Man ​

Objective: Avoid relationships with unavailable men. ​ Tasks:

1. Self-Reflection: Write about why dating a married man is harmful to your self-esteem and future.

2. Scenario Practice: Role-play how to politely decline advances from married or unavailable men.

3. Accountability Partner: Share your commitment to avoiding unavailable men with a trusted friend.

 

Module 24: Rule 24 - Slowly Involve Him in Your Family and Other Rules for Women with Children ​

Objective: Gradually introduce him to your family and children. ​ Tasks:

1. Timeline Planning: Create a timeline for when and how to introduce him to your family or children. ​

2. Role-Playing: Practice casual ways to mention your children or family without overwhelming him. ​

3. Reflection Exercise: Journal about how he responds to meeting your family and whether he shows genuine interest.

 

Module 25: Rule 25 - Practice, Practice, Practice! ​ (or, Getting Good at The Rules) ​

Objective: Build consistency and mastery of The Rules. ​ Tasks:

1. Daily Practice: Choose one rule to focus on each day and apply it in your interactions. ​

2. Accountability Partner: Pair up with someone to share progress and challenges. ​

3. Reflection Exercise: Write about your successes and areas for improvement each week.

 

Module 26: Rule 26 - Even if You're Engaged or Married, You Still Need The Rules ​

Objective: Maintain The Rules in long-term relationships. ​ Tasks:

1. Self-Care Plan: Create a plan to stay independent and busy even after marriage. ​

2. Role-Playing: Practice ways to let your partner take the lead in decision-making. ​

3. Reflection Exercise: Journal about how continuing The Rules strengthens your relationship.

 

Module 27: Rule 27 - Do The Rules, Even When Your Friends and Parents Think It's Nuts ​

Objective: Stay committed to The Rules despite external criticism. ​ Tasks:

1. Confidence Building: Write down why The Rules work for you and how they align with your goals.

2. Scenario Practice: Role-play how to respond to friends or family who criticize your approach. ​

3. Support Network: Find like-minded individuals who support your commitment to The Rules. ​

 

Module 28: Rule 28 - Be Smart and Other Rules for Dating in High School ​

Objective: Build confidence and make smart choices in high school dating. ​ Tasks:

1. Self-Care Plan: Focus on grooming, healthy eating, and dressing well to feel confident.

2. Social Observation: Attend school events and observe how confident peers interact. ​

3. Reflection Exercise: Write about how following The Rules makes you feel more empowered.

 

Module 29: Rule 29 - Take Care of Yourself and Other Rules for Dating in College ​

Objective: Prioritize self-care and independence while dating in college. ​ Tasks:

1. Health Plan: Create a fitness and nutrition plan to stay healthy and confident.

2. Social Engagement: Join clubs or activities to meet people naturally. ​

3. Reflection Exercise: Journal about how balancing self-care and dating improves your college experience. ​

 

Module 30: Rule 30 - Next! ​ and Other Rules for Dealing with Rejection ​

Objective: Learn to handle rejection gracefully and move on. ​ Tasks:

1. Affirmation Exercise: Write positive affirmations to remind yourself of your worth.

2. Action Plan: Create a list of activities to fill your time after a breakup (e.g., hobbies, social events). ​

3. Reflection Exercise: Journal about what you learned from the rejection and how you’ll apply The Rules moving forward.

 

Module 31: Rule 31 - Don't Discuss The Rules with Your Therapist ​

Objective: Focus on practicing The Rules without external debate. ​ Tasks:

1. Self-Reflection: Write about why The Rules work for you and how they align with your values.

2. Accountability Partner: Share your progress with a trusted friend instead of a therapist.

3. Reflection Exercise: Journal about how staying focused on The Rules improves your dating experience.

 

Module 32: Rule 32 - Don't Break The Rules ​

Objective: Stay consistent and avoid temptation to break The Rules. ​ Tasks:

1. Accountability Plan: Identify situations where you’re tempted to break The Rules and create strategies to avoid them. ​

2. Role-Playing: Practice responses to scenarios where you might feel tempted to chase or initiate.

3. Reflection Exercise: Write about how staying consistent with The Rules benefits your relationships.

 

Module 33: Rule 33 - Do The Rules and You'll Live Happily Ever After ​

Objective: Understand the long-term benefits of The Rules. Tasks:

1. Vision Board: Create a vision board of your ideal relationship and life.

2. Reflection Exercise: Write about how The Rules have positively impacted your dating experiences.

3. Gratitude Practice: List 5 things you’re grateful for in your current or past relationships.

 

Module 34: Rule 34 - Love Only Those Who Love You ​

Objective: Focus on mutual love and respect. ​ Tasks:

1. Self-Reflection: Write about what mutual love means to you and why it’s important.

2. Observation Exercise: Pay attention to how he shows love and whether it feels genuine.

3. Reflection Exercise: Journal about how loving those who love you improves your self-esteem and happiness. ​

 

Module 35: Rule 35 - Be Easy to Live With ​

Objective: Cultivate kindness and patience in long-term relationships. ​ Tasks:

1. Stress Management: Practice yoga, meditation, or other stress-relief techniques to stay calm ​